MelissaBea
Any advice for a lady that's moving to a new city for a man, and leaving a great job behind with no new offers in the pipeline?
oooh gurl, i feel your pain .. pain in your heart swelling with so much love for your boo that you’re willing to leave an amazing job and city to be with him! it’s not an easy decision and i’m no expert but i have certainly learned a lot in the past year.
- you are a brave bitch: it takes a brave bitch to just pack up her life and move to a random place with no job prospects and little to no friends or family. remember that when you go on interviews. remember that when you don’t land that job you were perfect for. remember that when you are thinking of joining a kickball league. remember that when you have your first big fight and a little voice in your head asks, “i moved here for this shit?” remember that when you get bored with funemployment and pick up new hobbies. remember that when you get lost while wandering around your new digs. remember that when annoying family/friends/strangers feel the need to tell you that “he should’ve moved to you.”
- have fun: YAY! FINALLY! you live in the same city or perhaps under the same roof as your sweetie! you no longer have to squeeze in a month of relationship stuffs into a 48 hour weekend. have fun on real, actual date nights that are planned in advance and that you obviously have killer outfits picked out for. have fun exploring your new city together. he may have been there first but he will love showing you around. have fun doing abso-fucking-lutely nothing. order pizza, crack open a bottle of red and veg the F out.
- appreciate his vulnerability: getting to be with your guy 24/7 means getting to learn and appreciate all his adorable quirks and daily routines, even the ones that involve weird smelly noises coming from his body. he’ll try and help with laundry and turn your favorite shirt pink. his hair will get long and you’ll have to gently remind him to schedule a cut. he’ll get sick and then proceed to be the worst patient ever. he might put on a tie that totally clashes with his shirt that totally clashes with his suit. but let’s be serious, he’ll secretly love the new face moisturizer you bought him. duh.
- find some balance: at first i was like, OMG WE HAVE SO MUCH LOST TIME TO MAKE UP FOR! LET’S BE TOGETHER ALL THE TIME! and then i remembered that jake had a life in place before i got here – a demanding job, a workout schedule, friends and coworkers, etc. i, on the other hand, had zero of those things. this definitely took some compromise on both of our parts .. i didn’t want to be a stage 5 clinger but i also expected him to adjust his routines a bit to make time for me. on my end, i resolved to make the most of my free time without him, whether it was cooking, cleaning, DIY-projecting, running or watching all of my shows that he hates. balance is key to any relationship but it’s super, super, super important when transitioning out of the long distance phase.
so, those are my 2 cents! i hope you don’t mind that i answered this publicly, i’m sure we’re not the only ones to take the plunge! enjoy your new city with your man!! xo
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you know you had a good weekend when ..
it’s almost 2 o’clock on monday afternoon and you’re just cheesing at your computer.
a year+ ago, i thought i had a good weekend when i was still hungover 3 days later or when i couldn’t find my apartment keys after a wild night out but my life has surely changed for the better since then.
my first week at the new job was pretty damn good. i still have lots to learn but my coworkers have been super helpful and it’s nice to be able to work from home in the mornings. dress code is business casual, emphasis on the casual part, so my closet is finally getting some love again! i’ve decided to keep the bar job 2 nights a week for now because it’s easy/fun money but i’m not so sure about only having one FULL day off .. we’ll see how long this work ethic lasts.
in the end, neither job kept me from having a blast this weekend! i skipped out of work a bit early friday and headed down to columbus (again) with jake for his best friend’s dad’s law school graduation party. we’ve been spending a lot of time in the car lately and i must say, it’s been pretty great to just catch up and talk about anything and everything. saturday we stopped at a fancy mall on our way back home and did a little damage to celebrate the fact that i actually have money to spend and then i headed back north to work a party at the bar. it was a REALLY late night/morning for me so sunday was for sleeping in and vegging out with a bagel and mimosas .. until jake showed up at my door with tix to see aziz downtown!
my cheeks are still sore from laughing last night so i should probably stop with the cheesing but i’m kinda on cloud 9 over my life/career/relationship these days and i guess i really want my computer screen - and anyone who walks by my office - to know.
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Thanks to a 911 phone call and the help of an energetic neighbor named Charles Ramsey, three women who’ve been missing for years are now safe.
CLE in the news with a CRAZY story. what’s even crazier is that this happened in a house that was in my “turf” during the campaign. like, I PROBABLY KNOCKED ON THIS DOOR AT SOME POINT?!?! what in the actual hell?!?!
but back to the hero, charles ramsey. he deserves big macs for life. what a guy.
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what to wear?
jake’s littlest sister graduates tomorrow so we are heading to columbus for festivities. the forecast is calling for 70’s and sunny and while the ceremony is indoors, afterwards we are having an outdoor party at her house with her roommates and their families etc. and then the (real) adults are leaving and us kids are all going bar hopping. it’s a obviously not a formal affair but still a reason to dress up .. and buy something new!
so, help! easter egg or jungle fever? or be responsible and wear something i already own?
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cool things that have happened this week
and by “cool” i mean SWEET/AWESOME/HOLLABACK
- due to #stitches2013, i went to see a doctor for the first time in forever. read: i got weighed for the first time in forever. i already knew i had lost some weight but seeing an actual number was pretty rad .. and not to toot my own horn but i’ve lost 20+ pounds since december 2011.
- that being said, it’s finally warming up in CLE so i unpacked my spring/summer wardrobe and the majority of my clothes don’t fit (in a good way) so obviously i need to go shopping.
- speaking of shopping, i haven’t done any in a whiiile due to funemployment but all of that is about to change because i’m 90% sure susan miller was right this month and i’ll be getting some good news in a few hours!!
- in a few more hours, #stitches2013 will be a thing of the past and i’ll never take my left thumb for granted again. seriously, try washing your long ass hair with one hand for a week and you’ll understand.
suffice it to say, this week > last week. i don’t want to jinx myself on the job front buuut i’m currently sitting in what will (potentially) be my new office, working on a project that i will (potentially) be spearheading and the VP just included me in her weekly staff memo email. that’s good, right?
PRAISE. THE. LAWD.
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my susan miller astrology overview for may is out of control.
crossing fingers and toes and eyes that it all comes true.
leolovers4lyfe.
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You might be sitting with him at the kitchen table drinking coffee from mismatched mugs and saying nothing because sometimes saying nothing is the best thing to say. He’s miles away, and you’re thinking you should take a shower or fix your hair or at least brush your teeth because you feel dirty and self-conscious. You wish the sun weren’t so bright on your face and you wish there was something other than corn flakes for breakfast so your stomach won’t start making hideous noises. You’re about to open your mouth and say something to break the silence, but he speaks first. He tilts his head slightly and says:
“You make me really happy.”
And you will agree he does, too.
”Yup.
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almost 70 degrees in cleveland = wearing a (leopard print) dress to a second interview.
sue me .. and/or hire me.
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